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I’ve even seen a woman raise her score sheet above her head at the end of the night, and demonstratively rip it to shreds … I’ve seen men break down in tears, struggle to find conversation topics to last 4 minutes, and most recently one guy admitted he came regularly to speed dating events because it’s the only time women will talk to him!
When you write a dating blog, speed dating is part of the territory.And so for the last 2 years, I’ve attended more speed dating events than I can count. ‘Elite’ speed dating, silent speed dating, blind speed dating, paper bag speed dating, cycle speed dating, literary speed dating … But no matter the gimmick, it always seems to come down to the same brutal truth. Speed dating originated in 1998, and was set up by an American rabbi, as a way for young, single Jewish people to meet one another.Back in the naughties, when the idea was novel, speed dating events attracted large diverse crowds.Up for a laugh, people embraced the novelty, and tried it.But as the years have gone on, the popularity of speed dating has dwindled … Unfortunately, the reality of modern-day speed dating, is that whilst most of the events take place in bars, the general crowd, particularly the men, are not people who are comfortable in bars.The very nature of speed dating means you have a captive audience.
A member of the opposite sex has to talk to you for at least four minutes, and so this encourages the most nervous types of daters.
People who wouldn’t normally approach the opposite sex in the real world. But the problem with speed dating, is that often the women who are attracted to speed dating events are VERY different to the men.
In general, women will turn up in groups, and be more relaxed and confident about the affair.
Whilst sociable women might see Speed Dating as an opportunity to broaden their pool of options, attractive, sociable men very rarely consider speed dating an option (unless they’ve been dragged along by a friend).
And so you often end up with a load of attractive, sociable women, talking to more awkward, a-sociable men, who they would never normally speak to. The guys (who most often turn up awkwardly on their own) are out of their depth, and the women end up disappointed.
I’ve seen women walk out of speed dating events before they even start.